A monthly experience for couples who want to stay curious about each other.
Each month, Date Night explores a different theme — Curiosity, Play, Senses, Melt — an evolving series of evenings designed to help you slow down, connect, & nurture what you’re building together.
Playful, loving & sometimes a little bit spicy.
Grounded, not clinical. Deep, not heavy. Fun, not frivolous.
Come once. Come every month! Either way, you'll leave closer than you arrived.
Date Night: Curiosity
The first in our monthly Date Night series.
When did you last really look at your partner like you were meeting them for the first time?
Curiosity is a two-hour evening designed to help you rediscover each other. Through gentle guided practices exploring your minds, hearts & eroticism you'll reconnect with your partner as the ever-evolving person they are, not just the one you think you know.
No performance, no pressure.
Just you, your partner, candlelight, a great guide, & permission to be genuinely curious again.
This isn't a sexual experience. There's room for a little spice along the way, but only where it's a genuine, enthusiastic yes for both of you. The Connection School is a consent-centered space. I’ll start the night by sharing tools that will help you to: set the pace, you read each other, & decide as partners what the night becomes.
A brief overview of the evening:
Arrive, settle in, & take a moment to name what you're both hoping to feel tonight
A gentle warm-up into presence & connection, to help you shed the day and land in the room together
A series of yum moments designed to pull you out of your habits, & into each other
We close by slowing down, savouring what unfolded, & letting the evening settle before you step back into the world
Details:
Date: Wednesday 30 September 2026
Time: 7:00pm - 9:00pm
Location: Studio 2, TAPAC, 100 Motions Road, Western Springs, Auckland
Cost: $150 / couple (incl. GST)
Suitable for couples of all orientations. Best suited for established couples (not first dates).
Spaces are limited to 10 couples.
“Thank you so much Michelle! You’ve left us with a huge toolbox of skills and exercises to keep us on the right track. And I can say that, thanks to your help, our relationship is the best it’s ever been. Your involvement has been transformative for us. ”
Who is your facilitator?
Michelle Kasey is an award-winning sex & relationships therapist (“best sex therapist 2023 & 2024”) burlesque artist (“burlesque performer of the year 2026”), and co-owner of ‘The Velvet Haven’ Burlesque Schools in Auckland and Wellington.
Her journey into this work began in a pole dancing studio & has developed over more than 14 years as a cabaret performer and teacher, giving her a perspective that few practitioners can offer.
She brings together embodied experience as a dancer & performer with therapeutic expertise, working in a somatic, trauma-informed, & playful way.
Since 2018, she has worked with thousands of clients through private sessions, group courses, and workshops, supporting people of all genders to develop a more alive, honest, and nourishing relationship with themselves.
She has written for The Spinoff, The Herald and performed on stages from intimate venues to crowds of 40,000.
Photo by David Kang
What to bring?
Comfortable clothing you can move in. Nothing restrictive, layers are good (temperature can shift through the night).
An open mind and a willingness to be curious! But no experience or "skill" is required.
Water bottle
Anything that helps you feel present. I ask that all phones are left in cars or bags. Everything else will be provided.
“Working with Michelle has brought my partner & I so much joy, better language, and better communication! The rituals that we’ve built through this work have become so special to us, so meaningful and impactful for our relationship. ”
Coming up
Date Night: Play
Let go of the pressure to get intimacy “right” and rediscover the pleasure of play. A delightful, sensual evening exploring curiosity, consent, anticipation and the joy of experimenting together.
Thursday 29 October | 7:00pm - 9:00pm | Ponsonby
Date Night: Melt
A softer kind of intimacy. Slow down, tune in and explore what it means to soften together — through presence, touch, co-regulation & small moments of vulnerability.
Thursday 26 November | 7:00pm - 9:00pm | Ponsonby