We unenthusiastically trudged upstairs to connect...

Moments earlier, he was falling asleep on the couch, with Big Bang Theory playing.

I was in my blanket fort of misery after having my wisdom tooth removed & then developing thrush thanks to antibiotics.

But we’d promised ourselves that we would connect & we could both feel it was needed.

My rebalancing pussy was a hard “no” on being touched, but we’re now practised in many other forms of body-based connection.

We cleaned our room a little, lit some candles, & dimmed our lighting.

I guided us through a short practice to let go of tension & get into presence. Then another to open our bodies up to connection.

15 minutes in, we shared one of the most profound moments of connection we’ve ever had (in a practice I’m so ripe to teach in my couples training, LOVERS).

Pants on. No g€nitals touched in the making.

As we lay in the afterglow, sharing about our experiences, he said, “I was feeling like absolute shit before, now I feel more alive than I have all day & absolutely certain that you love me a fuck tonne”.

Chris & I’s relationship isn’t awesome, by happenstance.

It’s the cumulative effect of many inconvenient choices like this one.

We no longer wait to feel “in the mood” before we connect. We know those moments can be few & far between. 

We create the mood

What chills you out & opens your body up to pleasure & connection?