Are you a people-pleaser in the bedroom?

Are you a people-pleaser in the bedroom?

People-pleasing in the bedroom can look like:

• Neglecting your desires in favour of what you think a partner wants you to want.

• Difficulty communicating your needs and boundaries for fear of rejection, upsetting your partner, or being a burden.

• Anxiety around your performance, which can hinder your performance. Thinking about how to do it ‘right’, rather than being authentic and present.

• Over-focusing on a partner’s satisfaction, to the detriment of your fulfilment. 

• Consenting to things you’re not comfortable with, leading to resentment and decreased desire over time.

• Enduring pain and discomfort for their pleasure.

• Resistance to initiating when you desire it, fearing rejection or being imposing. 

• Finding it hard to refuse, even when not in the mood, to not disappoint a partner.

People pleasing in the bedroom is nothing to be ashamed of, it’s common. But it creates a barrier to an authentic and satisfying sex life.

Start by building awareness of how this shows up for you.

Then, discover your true needs and recognise your worth, so you can communicate honestly and create relationships where you both feel valued and satisfied.

Would you like my help moving beyond people-pleasing to create mutually rewarding relationships? Email me at hello@michellekasey.com and we talk about what working together might mean for you.